November 2017 Peer-to-Peer Advice from First Year Seminar Students

When my teacher asked everyone in our FYE class to share something they learned so far, I thought – I haven’t learned anything. I’m the last one who should be giving advice. I was a really social person in high school, but now I sit in my room a lot, and I need to get out more. I only took four classes so I wouldn’t be in over my head, but now I don’t have anything to do. People in my dorm are always studying or going to labs, and I’m just not part of that. I should be taking more classes.

I really got myself in a bind because I didn’t understand how much I’d have to do to keep up my first semester here. I missed a few classes, and then I told myself I’d start going on Monday, and then it was like time just got away from me. When I saw my midterm grades, I kind of freaked out and knew I had to do something fast. It was really hard to talk to my parents, but I figured I’d better tell them before they got a letter or something from UD. My advisor was a big help with explaining options like auditing a class to my mom.

Nothing is different about you just because you’re at college now. I have ADHD and had to take medication in high school. I stopped when I got to college because I thought I could handle it. But just because where I go to school changed, I’m still the same person I was before I came to UD. So things got pretty messed up my first semester, and then I took off in the spring. When I came back this fall, I registered with DSS. Now I take my meds, see my counselor, and go to whatever offices I need to when I have a problem. I’m doing a lot better this time around.

 

 

 

Student-to-Student Advice

“I was surprised how much work was required for my college classes! I really want to go to dental school, but I was rethinking my decision last year because I was so busy all the time. Then I talked to my peer mentor in my FYE class and realized there isn’t anything else I want to do more. It may be a hard road ahead, but I know I’m brave enough to face the challenge! I get up every morning and look in the mirror and tell myself – “You can do this!” — Sophomore Biological Sciences Major

“My first year in college was kind of a mess. I was kind of a mess. I was homesick and I didn’t get along with my roommate and I didn’t understand how the classes were set up. I kept thinking, I don’t belong here. My RA suggested I go to the Counseling Center, and it was the best decision I ever made. I joined a support group and I realized I don’t have to be ashamed or hide my feelings just because I need help. I’m doing much better this year, and I hope my story will inspire others.” — Sophomore UST student

“Getting to college was exciting and scary and sometimes overwhelming because no one else in my family went to college, and I felt a lot of pressure to be successful. My mom didn’t like that I was undeclared because she worried that it would take me forever to graduate, but I needed time to figure out what I wanted to do. At the end of freshman year, I started to worry that maybe I was just wandering aimlessly, and I decided it was important to pick a major and just go for it. It was easier to get my family’s support once I could say exactly what I was studying.” – Junior Health Behavior Sciences major

Student-to-Student Advice

I think most things in life work out best when there’s a good balance of work and fun and adventure and stability. I had the most amazing opportunity to study abroad my freshman year and it forever changed me. My advice is to take risks, but don’t be so careless that you put yourself in a dangerous situation because you have absolutely no idea what you’re doing. – International Relations Sophomore

I really think sometimes it’s necessary to fail at something to really appreciate success. I’m undeclared now, but when I entered UD, I was in engineering. I had to go on academic probation and that was a real eye-opening experience after doing well in high school and not having to work very hard. – UST Sophomore

I’ve had a hard time figuring out if I’m in the right major and what I could do for a career. I still have to do a lot of soul-searching. I’m amazed at how much support and advice people here have given me. I’m convinced there’s nothing more important for success in college than building good relationships. – Biological Sciences Sophomore